NO GREATER GIFT

Over this past weekend, I drove our 19-year-old son back to college where he began the second semester of his freshman year yesterday. Our 17-year-old daughter accompanied us and proved to be a terrific co-pilot during the 4 hour drive back home.

My wife is away until January 16th, so last night my daughter fixed our dinner and did her best to reassure me that we would survive until her mother and brother return home. The last thing that I did before going to sleep last night was to help her braid her hair, as she is in the midst of the transition to “going natural.” I learned to braid in the 70’s, as a necessary skill to maintain my own “fro.”

I teared up Sunday as I hugged our son outside of his dorm before getting in the car to ride home. I began to tear up again this morning as I left the house, knowing that my daughter was about to leave right after me and drive herself to school. Our children are growing up before my and their mother’s eyes, faster than I could have ever dreamed.

These last few days have caused me to briefly reflect on my own biological father, who abandoned me and left my mother when I was 4. As I reap the countless and tremendous rewards of involved, loving, consistent fatherhood, I actually feel sadness and pity for the man who abandoned me and my older sister.

Most assuredly, there is no greater joy in life than parenting, especially when you can honestly say you are trying your very best. So, if you are an active and involved father, keep the faith and stay the course. If you aren’t, start the process today of reunification. There is no greater gift that you can give your child, or frankly, yourself, than responsible and loving fatherhood.

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2 Responses to NO GREATER GIFT

  1. Interesting post – alot of emotions going on here.
    I hope things will be okay till your wife returns.

  2. Ben says:

    Thank you for sharing.

    I drove my son back to school today; two 1/2 hours one-way. We’ve always had a good relationship. In fact, I told him years ago that there is nothing he can’t tell me. Mind you, our trip today didn’t produce any heart-stopping revelations. Actually, we laughed and joked and listened to the Ohio State / Michigan basketball.

    I guess I was the one who wanted to share something. My son is a good kid, a smart young man, and by most accounts his future looks bright. My fear is that my time may run out before I can tell him all the things i want to about life, manhood, people, and relationships. I fear that my wife and I have given him and his brothers so much growing up that our kids might have trouble maintaining the life style

    My father had an eighth grade education so he knew when he sent me to private high school that I was expected to eclipse his earning protential. Our kids have been on cruises, traveled overseas, and my son I speak of in the first paragraph, attends private school. We’ve given them the finer things in life and they’ve rarely wanted for something we couldn’t provide.

    When our kids are babies, parents often wonder what their kids will grow up to become. But during the process, we forget that as they grow, we age. The clock is ticking, and I have much more work to do. I pray I will have the chance to have many more two hour drives with my son i have so much more to share before my journey in this life comes to an end.

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